Polygamy will benefit men and they will be pleased as they will be free to openly fornicate with multiple women. This fuels most men's fantasy of having two willing women in the same bed! Men are never satisfied, hence the infamous 'Men are dogs'. "You can give a dog expensive food and take good care of it, but it will go next door and rummage in the bin - unless you put it on a leash." There is a difference between appreciating beauty and pursuing women. A lot of Batswana men do not seem to know the difference. There are few Batswana men who openly proclaim love and commitment to their partners, especially when they see a younger or better looking woman; they are gullible and always leave their options open. The only thing that keeps them to one partner is lack of money, fear of illnesses/or being caught and other commitments.
I can bet that most of them envy King Mswati. They wish they could have a couple of women, baba pataganye jaaka slice tsa borotho! Polygamy will only worsen these tjatjarag tendencies, added that some Batswana men aren't chivalrous nor do they want to part with money; claiming that they now make their own. They are stingy yet controlling. I cannot fathom a man who wants to sleep with, control and "own" a woman but can't say, "Here is some money, you can even pay for your gynaecologist check-ups." Surely, the best you can do is take care of the "coochie" you plunge with so much passion. Pun intended. Ekare monna a palelwa ke go becha a kgona basadi ba bantsi? Okho!
Because of the way the men here behave, the women have turned protective; always on their guard. A lot of Batswana women are petty, immature and insecure. How does a self-loving woman stay with a man who makes her insecure to start off with? If you are constantly worrying about your "man and other women" then you have a problem.
Mention the possibility of another woman getting cozy with her man and most women get into ‘psycho-mode’. Some women are delusional to believe that their partners will always be attracted to or sleep with them alone. The love and care may be there, but the spark and excitement die out. Sometimes men take in a lover because their women become too comfortable. Where butt cheeks used to flare and panties drop without being begged, now the woman starts developing ‘headaches in her waist’. Some women don’t pay attention to their looks and become a fat and moaning bore.
Unless she is a prostitute, when a woman drops her panties, there is some romantic emotion somewhere. I don't buy into some women's "liberal" ideas of "no strings attached sex' etc. Few women would "want to be pounded for nothing"; most women use sex as a tool of gain and don't fear luring a man with sex.
The amusing thing is that most women always want to protect men. Even if they know their man's "ways", they lash out at the woman. How do you think such women will fare in a polygamous set up? In love, jealousy and vengeance, women are more barbaric than men.
Polygamy ignores the paramount factor of exclusivity. People want to be loved, cared for, given attention, praised, made to feel needed and important. It’s even in Maslow's hierarchy of needs- esteem; in the personal and social sphere. Monogamy fulfils that role, as people are connected to each other, share emotional and sexual intimacy and other aspects of their lives. 'Multi-tasking' is a difficult waste of time and "too many cooks spoil the broth". Even if someone has multiple partners, there will always be a favourite. I mean, even human objectivity fails us!
On the flipside, people are already polygamous as it is; what with many cheating and pursuing numerous affairs. Do you remember Don Henlley's song, Sometimes Love Ain't Enough "But there's a danger in loving somebody too much, And it's sad when you know it's your heart you can't trust, There's a reason why people don't stay where they are, Baby sometimes love just ain't enough."
