A Balanced Life- A Melody of Harmony

Kealeboga Ngwigwa | Tuesday December 20, 2022 06:00

Dear Anonymous, I understand what you are currently going through and every feeling presiding over you life. Your body is prone to change so that it takes shape that is ideal to carry out the pregnancy in an amicable state.

All I know is that people will always talk behind our backs and at times before us but what I also know is that God is the one who orders our steps and allows certain events to befall us.

He said to Jeremiah in the Bible; “I knew you before you where formed in your mother’s womb and I ordained you to be the prophet”. What the scripture tells us is that every child born into earth is known before God, that is, God knows and has designated some purpose for them. Mary, Jesus mother, did not know that she will carry the Messiah.

So, you must take your focus from what people around us say and trust what God says. Children are a gift from God and every gift is ought to excite us, be excited in enduring pregnancy because other women are longing for it but do not have the blessing to procreate. You are about to bring life and prolong your legacy down to the next generation. As much as we enjoy indulging in sexual inter- course, we must enjoy in indulging in the fruits of it. You are only human thus events like this must happen. Our plans are not for us but God’s plan and are right and perfect for us. In a nutshell, the pregnancy was suppose to happen and you just have to embrace it and allow your partner to be a part of it. You will surely enjoy raising the baby once born. Be ready for a mother to also be born immediately after the delivery. All the best. #ColoringSouls

Dear Coach, My Wife spends too much at her church and that is really troubling me. We used to attend an orthodox church where clapping and tapping are the ordeal but with time my Wife’s friend invited her to a pentecostal church which she ended up attending full time. I did not want to be a difficult husband and allowed her to attend it since I believe that we all are serving the one God. My biggest problem now is that she spends almost all her time at church, that is, on weekdays after work and she arrives at very late hours of the night. I desire to spend time with her and the kids during weekends but unfortunately, church always has her booked and it also crushes our two little daughters whom only know Daddy but not Mummy. She is so absent in our lives. I have run short of ideas and confrontations pertaining this matter. What can you say to help me get through this because I really miss my Wife?

Dear Anonymous, Family is the most valuable aspect of our lives, furthermore, church is also vital in the upbringing of family. All I see from your query is lack of balance between the two in your family.

I love God and I concur that HE must be served utmost, at the same time, I feel that God has given us families to nurture and groom in HIS fashion. We turn to misunderstand how to perform our missions in the house of the Lord. You are not wrong to feel the way you are feeling and nor are you a he- devil to ask your wife to reduce the time she spends in church because there is absolutely no Bible’s verse that says “thy shall go to church everyday”. Too much of everything kills. She must be awake to the fact that she is causing a drift between what God has ordained, and that is your marriage. If ever, convince her that you can pray, worship and praise together with your children so that they also get seasoned with growing under the shadow of God. I pray that she realise that church is everywhere, it is no just some brick and malt and some structure but it is within each one of us.

God lives inside us. She must also experience and witness what God is doing in the lives of her family members; you and your children as they grow into awesome young ladies. Please, be as meek as possible when you address this issue again so that you become sound and allow her to absorb your contention in the matter. Stay super blessed. #ColoringSouls Kealeboga Ronald Ngwigwa is a Life Coach, Author, Columnist, Team Builder and an Events Director who believes that emotions build an attitude which ultimately builds one’s character. Forward your enquiries to krcoloringsouls@gmail.com or WhatsApp +26772522213 for advices.