Dear Anonymous, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved brother. He was very young. It is unfortunate that we all do not know how we are going to leave the phase of earth. Everything in our lives happens successfully because it is ordained and orchestrated by grace and we, unfortunately, do not have any jurisdiction to control it. Grace controls us and allows for things to be. Sometimes, I wonder, who is the ideal person to subdue to pain? What is it that they will probably have that qualifies them to always endure excruciating challenges that other humans do not have? It is wrong to approach matters in such a manner. Let’s change our perception that the departed beings were chosen for promotion to go live in heaven, to be our guardian angels. Therefore, we must accept the fact that life is mysterious and we cannot bank on our assumptions. We must be open minded that life unfolds in a way directed by the universe. Let us accept the event that has occurred and embrace that Grace was upon your brother; it saw the event befitting. He may be gone, but an angel was born in your lives. As for those who committed such a horrible act, we shall commit them to God. He shall address the rest and ultimately justice shall be served. Thugs must really be taken to task for their bad behaviour in strict measures so that we instil fear in them to curb their disgusting behaviour. Be comforted!
Dear Coach, I have been dating this other young lady who goes to varsity and currently on her last year of study. We met at the time I was doing my final semester while she was on her first. We started off very well and we had very defined goals about our individual lives, relationship, education and even about our careers. I was so convinced that I had found a wife also and with time, I will fulfil the ambition I have to be a family man. I got a job after I completed my varsity and honestly, it is not paying lucratively and hence I am often poised with financial challenges and sometimes I can’t extend a helping hand to her in time of her need. I really do my best though to share what I have with her but it is never enough. She recently dumped me because she met a guy who has a better job and drives a nice whip. I know with time I will accumulate such also but she didn’t believe a lot in me. I am so heartbroken and I do not know what to do. Please assist Coach. Yours, Anonymous Dear Anonymous, I think I know what you can do. How about you take a deep breath, pick yourself up and look around, there are so many young beautiful girls alive and many yet to be born.
I appreciate the beauty you have experienced on your past relationship but unfortunately the structures you had in place could not save the relationship. It happens and almost every one of us at one point, bites the dust. I often say, do not leave somebody because of their economic status since it is prone to change overnight. But if someone makes it a reason to break up a relationship, they were never part of it in the first place. The biggest mistake we often make is cling on to past memories and gather ideas that they will eventually come back. That is a false illusion. If she wanted to stay, it was simple, she could have stayed. What will be there that is currently lacking that prompts her to leave? You will still be the same person even after so many years. Try next door, there are other deserving potential partners out there. The best gift you can give yourself is working hard so she witnesses your true value.
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