A few years ago I embarked on the tendering business and I became very prosperous. I was the age of eighteen (18) at the time I started. I bought everything that my heart desired and everything I bought cash.
Every weekend I hosted so many people at my house for a party which wasted so much money. It is amazing that some of the people who came I never met before. It was just insane. I have been reflecting on those days, my heart swells with so much unbearable pain because I have not been getting any tenders anymore. All the people that I was instrumental to have turned their backs on me. It seems like my financial situation is deteriorating every minute of the day. I owe so many people who are so pestering me with paying them.
I am not saying they are wrong to do that, they have every right to seek their monies back. I at times feel like ending my life because I am such a loser. A day passes and I see no light at the end of the tunnel. I no longer feel like I know myself, what can I do to free myself from these bad experiences? Yours, Anonymous Dear Anonymous, I am so sorry that life has thrown you under the bus. It does not mean you are a loser simple because things are going all south for you. We are all like a year, that is, we are too seasonal.
We have days where we spring, summer, autumn and winter. I mean, we become joyous and agonised and it is all inevitable. As much as you are enduring some dire cold winter it was vital that you put on the ideal costume for the era. The costume here refers to proper planning and savings. We need to grow over the thought that we are ought to change our lives drastically.
The partying and over- spending are very cruel to one’s financial wellbeing. Do not lose heart, just keep on trying your best tendering again, one day luck will be on your side and you can repay off all your debts and regain your financial freedom. You must learn that we use money to make money, that is, if you find a lump sum, invest in something that could generate money for you at all times. I will also advise that you should stop borrowing money from others and try to settle what you currently have at hand. The more you borrow, it is the more your condition worsen. I hope things will go back to equal footing again in your life and that you are now more wiser than before. #ColoringSouls
Dear Coach, My friends and I have established a social group that supports each member when we host events. It is an informal social set up which means that we are not registered legally. We have been consistently pursuing the same course for the past three (3) years. At the beginning of a year past, some women started some petty talks and that brought unfaithfulness on the group because of the differences that arose amongst us. It’s like we are factions and not a compact unit we once were. Whenever there are meetings, some decide to be the opposing team and that hinders progress of life and growth of the club. The energy is no longer harmonious.
No idea survives the discussion simply because we are bitter against each other. What must we do to revive the team spirit we once had because I believe the group has potential to thrive? Yours, Anonymous Dear Anonymous, Unity conquers it all. Division is the foundation of failure. You must sit down again as a group, with each member understanding the purpose of it. Once everyone is on the same page, you need to realign on the concept established. Please understand that there is business and personal matters, they are not the same. They are like oil and water, they do not mix and not suppose to. The social set- up is business and you all have a personal life that can and should attract conflict. Conflict is not immune to anyone and where we group, it is eminent. It only needs to be managed since it cannot be avoided.
If they can, please advise them to have an honest and meek conversation about their differences and find an amicable and mutual agreement and understanding. This will catapult the spirit within the team and inject effectiveness and efficiency in all ideas brainstormed. It is okay to disagree but it should not be done because of personal matters.
That is stooping very low and the beginning of death of a relationship. *Kealeboga Ronald Ngwigwa is a Life Coach, Author, Columnist, Team Builder and an Events Director who believes that emotions build an attitude which ultimately builds one’s character. Forward your enquiries to [email protected] or WhatsApp +26772522213 for advices.
